Matters of the Heart

Read 1 Thessalonians 5:12-24

Reflection of Tommy:

There are so many gems found in today’s passage! In verse 12 and 13, Paul was talking about giving the respect to those leading our church: pastors and leaders. So very often we criticize them for not preaching what we would like to hear or even ridicule them for their idiosyncrasy. Here, Paul urges us instead to express our appreciation and hold them in the ‘highest regard’ for their effort to help us in our journey. We need to remember they need and deserve our support, cooperation and love.

In verse 14, Paul talked about having the sensitivity to know the condition of our brothers and sisters and finding effective ways to help the situation. We are to know the difference between those who are idling from those who are timid and use a unique approach (warn those idling; encourage those timid, help those weak) in each case.

Verse 16 to 18 give us 3 clear commands to obey always and in all circumstances – be joyful, pray continually and give thanks to God. This requires our conscious decision to do what God says and acknowledging our dependence on Him. This allows Him to change us to naturally want to obey Him and doing His will. And when we do His will, we will find it easier to be joyful and thankful to God in everything. Even when evil strikes, we can still be thankful for God’s presence and His sustaining grace for us, and for the good that He will accomplish through the situation.

Dear Father, thank You for Your Word today. Thank You for reminding me how to obey You and how to live in peace with one another. Forgive me Lord of sometimes being so critical over those who work hard to lead the church. Teach me to be more respectful for what they have done and doing for your church and Your people.

Lord, give me the wisdom and the sensitivity to effectively help in the ministry when I am reaching out to them. I pray more of them may come and fully devote their lives to honor and glorify You. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

For Her and Him

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives and Husbands
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Reflection of Bee:

Although the above passage seems to be talking more about a marriage relationship, the implication goes beyond that. It talks about true love and submission in a healthy relationship, which can also be applicable to singles.

"We believe that God's purpose for the body of Christ is that it should provide the context for deep and satisfying relationships. Marriage is one context for meeting our needs, but not the only one by God's design."
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The command is for a wife to "submit" to her husband, not so much as to love her husband. Why? Women, by God's design, tend to love their men or husbands without being told when they can feel and see the men's love for them. However, submission might be a bit of a problem when they have more knowledge than their men. Submission and respect also go hand in hand. If the women find it hard to respect their men, it will be hard to submit. Yet women need to learn submission.

As for the men, the command is to "love" their wives. Men have the tendency of falling head-over-heel for their women during courtship or initial marriage. Yet time will tell if the men actually love the women in their lives or it was just some emotional infatuation. Therefore, men need to learn to truly love, just like Christ loves (sacrificial and unconditional).

The love of the men for their women will pave the way for this to happen. Mutual love, submission, and respect are what God wants us to have in a healthy Christian relationship with each other.

Dear Lord,
Teach us, your sons and daughters in Christ, to learn to truly love and submit just like Christ did. Turn our eyes upon Jesus so that we can model after Him. Teach us not to be selfish, but to love unconditionally. Teach us to submit to the authority You have ordained.
In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.


Reflection of Tommy:

In our today’s culture, submission is not a popular concept and it has been distorted by some to give unlimited authority to husbands. But in today’s passage we can learn from Paul, that true submission is mutual and its God’s way to preserve order and harmony in any kind of relationships. It also increases love and respect between two persons.

Dear Father, thank You for teaching me to submit and love one another by choice. Thank You also for guiding me to submit to You, that I may willing to obey Your command to submit to others too. Lead me to trust You more to be changed and renewed by Your Word each day, and being sure that Your perfect love will see me through. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

Love & Respect

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives and Husbands
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Bee's Thoughts:

Wives are to"submit" (v22) and "respect" (v33) their husbands. Submission is non-voluntary action while respect is voluntary action. Submission is based on authority bestowed while respect has to be earned.

When husbands truly love their wives, it's natural for their wives to respect them. Love involves the husbands' willingness to give themselves or their rights to their wives (v25).

"Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends." John 15:12-17

When we compare verses in Ephesians 5 and John 15, we can see that husbands and wives should be the best of friends after all. True friendship and love are non separable.


Dear Lord,
You desire that friendship, love and respect be found not only between husbands and wives but also between true friends. For relationship, friendship and love will not past away when we meet You one day. Help me to cultivate such things that will last. May my life be a blessing to someone today.
In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.



Tommy's Thoughts:

Nothing makes children sadder than seeing their own parent quarreling, yelling at each others with harsh and abusive words. It takes both husband and wife to have a strong relationship with Christ, which this will not happen in a family.

As explained by Paul in today’s passage, the Biblical ideal for marriage is when both partners submit to each others by choice and with love, care and respect. Instead of always pointing at the flaws and weaknesses of our partners and being envious of others, Paul teaches us to make every effort to protect and preserve the precious relationship and harmony in our family, through love and self-sacrificing care.

Dear Father, thank You Father for teaching me the meaning of having a servant’s heart, caring and show respect for others. Thank You for molding me to be a better person, an other-centered person that concerns for the happiness of others instead of only my own.

Lord, I pray that You will guide me to be more willing in putting aside my own interests in order to truly love, serve and care for others. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.